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How Do I Know If My Child/Youth Needs Therapy?

Child and youth need therapy

Parents /guardians typically know their kids best. They know their child's day-to-day routines and personality and can likely sense when something is off. But when there are too many changes (not for the better) for too long, and the consequences are too intense and negative, they start to add up; it might be time for a clinical intervention before they get too far from a healthy developmental path.

 

Clinical signs and symptoms are negative presentations that persistently interfere with a child’s life, lowering their level of functioning and impacting healthy development. This is typically why children are brought into therapy.

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Problematic Signs & Symptoms May Include:
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  • Difficulty sleeping, recurrent nightmares, or chronic bed-wetting

  • Problems with eating (loss of appetite or binging), elimination, and toileting

  • Excessive worry, sadness, anger, or fear

  • General anxiety, separation anxiety, persistent fears, panic, phobias 

  • Excessive shyness, social withdrawal, isolation

  • Behavioural/developmental regression

  • Adjustment problems

  • Aggressive behaviour, rage (hurting self or others)

  • Pre-occupation with sexual behaviour

  • Compulsive behaviour

  • Depression and extreme fatigue

  • Self-harm, suicidal ideation

  • Drug and alcohol use/abuse

  • Risk-taking behaviours

  • Defiance of authority figures and mistrust of adults

  • Tummy and head aches

  • Persistent lying

  • Zoned out most of the time 

  • Chronic low self-confidence/self-esteem

  • Always in fight, flight or freeze mode

  • Diagnosis of behavioural, emotional, or developmental disorder

  • Social and relational challenges, withdrawal from normal play

  • Self-regulation challenges, low affect tolerance

  • School challenges: confusion, trouble concentrating, decline in academic functioning

  • Attachment challenges with important people in their lives

 

 
Potentially Traumatic Experiences That May Lead to Clinical Symptoms:
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  • ​Parental conflict, separation, or divorce: perceived loss of family unit, caught in the middle, experiencing hostility, moving from one place to another, getting to know a new family, new roles, parent instability etc

  • General loss: relationship, hope, core beliefs etc

  • Adjustment to adoption, or foster care

  • Illness or hospitalization of self, loved one, or pet

  • Experiencing a car accident, getting in an accident in which they were really hurt

  • Witnessing something scary

  • Certain aspects of cultural and or negative community-based experience

  • Child abuse (Sexual, physical, emotional, spiritual and neglect)

  • Natural disasters: war, earthquakes, volcanoes, floods, hurricanes, tornadoes, tsunamis, avalanches, fires, pandemics, etc

  • Relational trauma: bullying, peer rejection, physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual abuse and/or neglect and abandonment, racism, sexism, homophobia, witnessing domestic violence, persistent abuse of power by adults

  • Death & Loss: death of a loved one or pet, witnessing death

  • Miscellaneous traumas:  a single scary incident, accident, personal failures, social problems, animal nips, and nightmares etc

  • Medical/Dental: waking up during surgery without parents, ongoing medical problems, diagnosis, and a frightening experience in general

  • Transitions: moving into a new grade, moving from childhood to adolescence, moving homes, living in a new neighbourhood, getting to know a new family, new immigrants or refugees (Eg: culture shock, fleeing war or unpleasant circumstances in the home country), new sibling

  • Discrimination, racism, hate crime, and homophobia

 

 
A Note On Ongoing Environmental Distress:
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Children and youth who are in environments that contribute to clinical symptoms and unhealthy development are likely in an active state of fight, flight, freeze or shut down. These children can be treated to manage symptoms, but cannot be expected to recover from ongoing experiences.  Parents/guardians must manage therapeutic expectations in these cases and be prepared to make interventions, if possible, in the environments that contribute to the child’s clinical symptoms for significant progress to occur. Therapists can help with this, too.

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Suite 201 & 301-3701 E Hastings St.
Burnaby, BC V5C 2H6

604-637-2074

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