"Sometimes, the person who has been there for everyone else needs someone to be there for them"
I can imagine that this might be an uncertain time for you. You may be wanting to help your child and you have tried many things but it hasn’t always worked. I believe you are doing the best you can with the knowledge you have. You want the best for your child and so do I. Our alliance and collaboration will be very important as we move through the counselling process.
Although I am not a parent myself, I am very compassionate and non-judgemental and I am here to support you. Because I do not have children many of my peers say I am better able to offer an objectivity that many parent therapists cannot. I have significant knowledge in child and youth development and I have been working with children and youth for 20 plus years. I often help parents by offering them psycho-education (information about the psychological issue their child is dealing with) and consultations about ways you can parent that will enhance your relationship with your child. As I believe having a healthy, meaningful relationship with your child will go miles to help them adjust to current and future challenges.
Although I do not do individual counselling with parents/caregivers or traditional family therapy, if I am working with your child I can refer you to another clinician who I recommend if you feel you are in need of those services. However, I sometimes do involve parents/caregivers in child-parent relationship therapy which is specifically geared toward enhancing your relationship with your child through facilitated play in the play therapy room. Often what you learn in the play room can then be implemented by YOU in your home. Engaging in this method will often enhance the therapeutic benefits and outcomes of your child’s individual therapy as well as strengthening your relationship with your child for years to come. Your commitment to this process is invaluable.
I also believe self-care for you is important. Often times we are too hard on ourselves and do not allow time for personal care. We often should all over ourselves. I should have done this, I should have said that. Beating yourself up is not helpful for you or your child. Be gentle with yourself and prioritize your needs the way you likely do with so many others.
These are great books to read and a great course to take simultaneously while your child in in Play Therapy
Emotion Coaching, by John Gottman
Understanding my Child’s Moods & Behaviour's Course: $99 (this online course is excellent and very practical, lots of tools and print outs)
Hold on to Your Child, Gordon Neufeld
The Whole Brain Child, Dr. Dan Siegel
These are great websites full of free parent resources: